As Muslims, we should take the Prophets as our example in everything that we do. This includes parenting. One of the best examples of parenting mentioned in the Qur’an is that of the advice given by Luqman (peace be upon him) to his son. Many articles have been written about this advice but today we want to focus on one aspect. Insha Allah we will discuss others in later posts.
In the below verse, we see Luqman describing some of Allah’s Might:
“O my son! If it be equal to the weight of a grain of mustard seed, and tough it be as a rock, or in the Heavens or the earth, Allah will bring it forth. Verily Allah is subtle in bringing out that grain, well aware of its place.” [Qur'an 31:16]
We should keep in mind that the knowledge of Allah is the most excellent
A positive attitude is very important as inshaAllah, it will make our life easier. In life, not everything goes as smoothly as we want it to be. This is the nature of this world – it is a testing ground. There will be times when we will face problems and obstacles. The most challenging part is not when our life goes smoothly but how we react when we experience problems and difficulties. We should be grateful to Allah at times of ease and patient in times of difficulty. And we should always put out trust in Allah.
As Muslim parents, the benefits of having a positive attitude should also effect our approach to raising children. With this in mind, below are some very simply points that we should
Keeping ties between relatives is something very important in Islam. There is an increasing number of ways to communicate in today’s technological age, yet the gap between the new tech savvy generation and the older generation is growing.
In the below verse of the Qur’an, we see the community focus in Islam and the emphasis on maintaining ties with relatives:
Children like anyone, will experience anger at some point. We need to understand that anger is inherent in human nature and as parents, we should understand more about the concept of anger and how to manage it in our children.
The first thing we should note is that anger is not “all evil” and that how anger is channelled is important. Anger actually has some benefits when “used” for the right reasons. For example, anger can be a useful instrument when defending oneself, religion, honour as well as the keeping the Muslim lands safe from the plots of the aggressors. When anger is used in this way, it is a commendable thing; however we should note that anger is not the same as being irrational or unjust. The type anger referred to above is not the anger we are considering today.
In more than a few verses in the Qur’an, Allah commands us to repress anger and repel evil for that which is better. For example:
The most effective way to teach anything to anybody is by example, that is, to be a good role model. This is why Allah sent human beings as Prophets to all peoples.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was the best of examples, as Allah says:
Truly, in those there is an excellent example for everyone who puts their hopes in Allah and the Last Day.
We need to understand that our children, especially when they are young, will learn how to behave by watching what we do.
I was reading something interesting today about the development of the foetus in the womb and the conclusions reached by science. Science has verified that after about 120 days, the foetus can think; express emotions, as well as a few other things.
“Verily the creation of everyone of you is brought together in the mother’s womb as a drop of semen for forty days, then it becomes a clot for the same period, then it becomes a blob of flesh for the same period. Then the angel will be sent unto it to blow into it a spirit (ruh), and the angel ordered (to carry out) with four instructions: to write down his livelihood, the span of his life, his deeds, and either he is wretched or fortunate…”
Another important development during this stage is the ability to distinguish and recognise sounds. Experiments have been carried out that
Today we want to talk about how to manage your children’s time. The nature of children is that they enjoy playing and having adventures. As parents, we should keep this in mind and accommodate these requirements. In fact, the fact that children are energetic by nature can be used in their favour.
To do this, we should prepare places for them to play in and have fun and give them access to halal sporting clubs and swimming pools etc. If we do not do this, they may end up mixing with bad peers and will seek pleasure in
As Muslim parents, we should show our children that Islam is not only about haram – e.g. “don’t do this” or “you cant do that”… and so on. When we focus on this with children, they will not see the inherent beauty of Islam. We should be balanced, and try and make Islam appealing to them in whatever way we can.
Of course we should teach our children the boundaries of Islam but equally importantly, we should teach them to love Allah, Islam, and Muhammad (peace be upon him). Here are a few tips.
It is important to talk and listen to your children. It teaches them maturity and develops your bond with them. You should not only talk to them when you are criticising them or when you want them to do something for you.
Good communication with children is about encouraging them to talk to you. And listening so they can tell you how they feel.
Insha Allah here is some benefits of talking as well as listening to your children from a young age
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) stated, “He is not of us who does not have compassion for his fellow beings”. It is interesting to note that when it comes to Hadith like this or Quranic quotes dealing with human behavior, we never stop to think that our children and family members are also our fellow human beings and that these golden rules must also be applied to them.
Compassion is only one component of the concept of mercy (rahmah) – the others being kindness, respect, and of course love. The are many examples of this in